{"id":12409,"date":"2020-08-14T14:41:25","date_gmt":"2020-08-14T14:41:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fightfastvideos.com\/blog\/?p=12409"},"modified":"2020-08-14T14:41:27","modified_gmt":"2020-08-14T14:41:27","slug":"man-skills-kickass-decision-points-that-work","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fightfastvideos.com\/blog\/2020\/08\/14\/man-skills-kickass-decision-points-that-work\/","title":{"rendered":"Man Skills: Kickass Decision Points (That Work)..."},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"blog\">\n\nHey, it's Jimbo over here at Fight central.\n\nWhile everyone else is under the bed hiding from a microscopic bug, (because it's sooo hard to punch a virus in the face), I wanna talk about protecting yourself from something much, much bigger (like a gillion-times bigger)...\n\n...bad guys.\n\nSo today I bring you amazing insight on creating \u201cDecision Points\u201d (a fancy way of saying you're able to act automatically really-really fast and smart while under alot, alot of pressure).\n\nHaving pre-existing Decision Points neatly tucked away in the back of your brain is critical to winning a fight.\n\nBecause one of the biggest mistakes you can make in a fight is to \u201cdeny\u201d that you\u2019re even in a fight, (<em>\"No, no. I'm not in a fight. Go to your happy place... go to your happy place\"<\/em>).\n\nFrankly, the confrontation starts when your intuition tells you \u201csomething\u2019s wrong\u201d, not after you've head stomped, (\"hey my nose is bleeding. I think I gotta get ready to fight\").\n\nSo the trick is to create as many Decision Points upfront -- before your brain is under extreme pressure. Give you an automated checklist for when crunch time hits, (almost like being first in line for the toilet paper).\n\nThis will help reduce the internal chatter and eliminate the need to \u201cfigure it out\u201d at the beginning of a confrontation when the brain wants to freeze-up and slam into lock-down mode.\n\nThe idea is to eliminate hesitation by setting-up key decision points beforehand.\n\nSo... the big question is: <em>Just how do you know ahead of time when trouble's a-brewin'?<\/em>\n\nWell, there are THREE major signs.\n\n<!--more-->\n<ul class=\"blog-lists\">\n \t<li><strong>Body Language:<\/strong> What he's saying without talking.<\/li>\n \t<li><strong>Verbal:<\/strong> The words coming-up outta his mouth.<\/li>\n \t<li><strong>Behavior:<\/strong> Actions that can predict the future, (Oooo).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n[dfads params='groups=292&amp;limit=1&amp;orderby=random']\n<h3 class=\"red\">Body Language:<\/h3>\n<h4>Let me hear your body talk!<\/h4>\nIt\u2019s not a coincidence that the same handful of players keep making it to the world series of poker.\n\nYes, poker is a game of probability and chance, so technically everyone should have the same odds of winning (or losing their shirt). The question is, why do these guys always win?\n\nWell, they\u2019ve simply become experts at recognizing their fellow poker players \u201ctells\u201d -- or their non-verbal indicators.\n\nSo every time you get a good (or bad) hand you may scratch your nose, raise your eyebrows, or wiggle your ears. They are watching and taking notes.\n\nLater they take your money. (My big \"tell\" is throwing-up on the table. But I didn't think anyone noticed).\n\nSame with fighting. There are a number of \u201ctells\u201d or non-verbal body language signals communicating that you are in imminent danger of attack.\n\nConsider those signals to be gifts from your opponent, because they reveal that he's about to feed you a knuckle sandwich, (a little followup gift).\n\nHere are non-verbal cues, (this stuff is gold).\n<ul class=\"blog-lists\">\n \t<li><strong>The \u201cLook-Away\u201d:<\/strong> Just before that right haymaker is thrown an opponent will commonly look to one side. It\u2019s a sort of distraction technique.\n<p style=\"text-indent: 0px;\">As fighter Jim West says \u201cIf I\u2019m in a confrontation with someone and they look to the side, it means they\u2019re about to hit me \u2013 so I hit first\u201d. (Note to self: So when chatting with West never to look off to the side).<\/p>\n<\/li>\n \t<li><strong>The \u201cFinger Jab\u201d:<\/strong> Someone poking you in the chest is also a big red flag. It\u2019s a way that your opponent \u201ctests the water\u201d \u2013 but instead of testing with a toe, he\u2019s using a finger, (because poking you with his toe would be awkward).\n<p style=\"text-indent: 0px;\">He\u2019s building up his confidence and resolve by violating your personal space. If you stand by and do nothing, it tells him, \u201cthe water\u2019s fine\u2026 go ahead and attack this guy.\u201d<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-indent: 0px;\">A poke in the chest or any violation of your personal space at the initial stages of a confrontation should trigger some kind of immediate response from you.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n \t<li><strong>The \u201cShove\u201d:<\/strong> Yet another classic example of violating your personal space -- except unlike the finger-poke, the shove is almost always immediately followed by a punch.\n<p style=\"text-indent: 0px;\">You should expect very little time between the shove and the incoming blow \u2013 which of course means you need to act fast in this situation.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-indent: 0px;\">Which is why this is a good place for you to create a \"Decision Point\".<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-indent: 0px;\">Decide beforehand what you\u2019ll automatically do in this type of situation because you\u2019ll most likely have NO time to decide during a confrontation (which is the whole point of creating these \u201cDecision Points\u201d).<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-indent: 0px;\">People typically don\u2019t push, then walk away.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n \t<li><strong>The \u201cTarget Gaze\u201d:<\/strong> An opponent will naturally look at what he\u2019s about to strike. Watch out for an adversary who changes his gaze to your chin (or perhaps another more embarrassing target).<\/li>\n \t<li><strong>The \u201cChin Drop\u201d:<\/strong> Another \u201ccue\u201d that should prompt you into a decision is seeing your opponent drop his chin.\n<p style=\"text-indent: 0px;\">This is a subconscious action that protects the neck... and it almost always means trouble.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n \t<li><strong>Getting Hit:<\/strong> The biggest non-verbal cue is being struck. Okay... you're probably laughing but this is one of the few times I'm not making a stupid joke.\n<p style=\"text-indent: 0px;\">Many novice fighters who get sucker-punched are slow to realize what\u2019s going on. They know something\u2019s wrong, they may even suspect they\u2019ve been hit by that angry-looking fellow -- but somehow they just can\u2019t bring themselves to believe it \u2013 until they get hit again.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-indent: 0px;\">If you suspect you\u2019ve been hit, do NOT stand around trying to figure it out. Take immediate action, whether it\u2019s running away or dropping the guy in front of you, (oops... not that guy. The other guy).<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<div class=\"small-12 medium-10 medium-centered large-11 large-centered columns\">\n\t\t[dfads params='groups=290&amp;limit=1&amp;orderby=random']<\/div>\n<h3 class=\"red\">Verbal Threats:<\/h3>\n<h4>So nice when he explains his intentions.<\/h4>\nThe second major indicator that trouble is at your doorstep is the verbal threat. There are two specific kinds to look out for:\n\n<strong><em>Vocalizing The Threat:<\/em><\/strong> \u201cI\u2019m gonna zyx@%# you up!\u201d\n\nOkay\u2026 this may seem so obvious that it\u2019s not worth mentioning. And I wouldn\u2019t if my research didn\u2019t show that MOST inexperienced fighters do nothing in the face of serious verbal threats.\n\nBad idea.\n\nHere's the thing: Even if you suspect you\u2019re dealing with an Emotionally Hijacked individual (basically the volatile \"man-child\" I discussed in a previous Man Skills) and you've decided to just let him \u201cblow off steam\u201d you\u2019ve still have analyzed the situation and took decisive action.\n\nBut a Bully or Emotionally Hijacked individual (rarely will you get a bold verbal threat from a sneaky Predator), will use the verbal threat as a way to \u201cramp up\u201d confidence and emotions (much like the poke in the chest) meaning that things can escalate fast.\n\nPoint is, don't ignore an open verbal threat, (<em>\"What? I thought he was kidding! And then I woke up in a dumpster\"<\/em>).\n<ul class=\"blog-lists\">\n \t<li><strong>The \u201cSudden Silent Treatment\u201d:<\/strong> If your opponent has been talking, talking, and talking and then suddenly becomes very quiet, it means he\u2019s entered into an internal dialog on what he\u2019s about to do to you, (and it's rarely nice stuff).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\nAs FightFast instructor Demi Barbitos says: <em>\u201cFighters don\u2019t talk and swing at the same time\u201d.<\/em>\n\n[dfads params='groups=292&amp;limit=1&amp;orderby=random']\n<h3 class=\"red\">Analyzing Behavior:<\/h3>\n<h4>Actions That Can Reveal The Future.<\/h4>\nThis is the third indicator of potential trouble. Judge people by what you see them doing and adjust yourself accordingly.\n\nHere's where your observation skills come in to play. You\u2019ll want (for example) to avoid loud young men who\u2019ve been drinking \u2013 especially if there are women accompanying them.\n\nBar bouncer (and cage fighter) Mike Serr points out that nearly ALL intoxicated men will react violently if they are confronted or slighted in front of a woman.\n\nSo a common tactic is to set up a \u201cploy\u201d to separate the guy from his little \"wolf pack\" before confronting him.\n\nIf you're a bouncer or a manager, it is more likely he\u2019ll leave your establishment or follow direction as there\u2019s no need for him to \u201csave face\u201d.\n\nBecause even a small guy with very little chance at winning will fight hard to avoid being humiliated in front of friends and women, (officially making testosterone the most dangerous of all drugs).\n\n<strong>Ignoring reasonable requests:<\/strong>\n\nSo let's say you\u2019re pumping gas at a 24-hour station when a hooded man appears from the shadows and starts walking toward you.\n\nIn this situation when the suspect is 30 feet away or so you should recognize that this has the potential to go sideways.\n\nMaybe your heart\u2019s beating a little faster and your intuition is telling you that something\u2019s wrong. Pay attention to these signals. (Like when my brother-in-law told his girl to \"listen to your heart\" and so she did... and promptly dumped him).\n\nNow \u201caction\u201d doesn\u2019t have to mean brutally attacking an opponent or running for your life. No. Action can mean holding up your hand and shouting <em>\u201cStop right there. You don\u2019t need to come any closer. What do you want?\u201d<\/em>\n\nThat's a reasonable request.\n\nAny normal person with good intentions would stop. If he doesn\u2019t stop, you KNOW there\u2019s something wrong.\n\nYou\u2019ve just gained some critical information and bought some time and space to plan your next action -- attack or escape.\n\nAgain, create \"decision points\" like this ahead of time.\n\nWhat will you do if he doesn't stop? This is not a legal decision, it\u2019s a decision to protect yourself.\n\nThe sharper you can define the line, (if he does this, I\u2019ll take that action\u2026 if he does that, I\u2019ll take this action\u2026 etc), the more decisive your action and the better equipped you are.\n\nImagine different scenarios and decide what \u201cline-crossing\u201d will automatically \u201ctrigger\u201d specific actions from you. There are a couple of good reasons to do this:\n\nGood for emotional health:\n\nEspecially when \u201cpride\u201d is involved. You\u2019ll never regret \u201cbacking away\u201d from a fight if it didn\u2019t fit your decision point.\n\nIt completely eliminates the laying in bed cursing yourself as a weakling (I should have said this\u2026 I should have done that\u2026).\n\nAutomatic response:\n\nThere\u2019s no longer a need to think about it.\n\nIf a certain \u201ctrigger\u201d is tripped you don\u2019t have to ponder long and hard. The decision\u2019s already been made for you.\n\nSome of your \u201ctriggers\u201d may not hold up in court, (ie, killing the guy who took your Jello). But by defining your triggers, you also can define what\u2019s NOT your trigger.\n\nSo you may reasonably decide that somebody accidentally bumping into you is not a trigger, (good choice). And if he then \u201cflips you off\u201d and calls you a \u201cson of a #!*!\u201d and keeps walking, let's say that's not a trigger for you either, (wow, another good choice).\n\nYou see, it allows you to make intelligent decisions under stress, (and avoid being emotionally hijacked yourself) while never regretting your decisions.\n\nThe most beautiful thing about a Decision Point is that it allows you to FULLY engage when the time comes.\n\nNo hesitation, no second-guessing because there is no other decision to make other than \u201cam I willing to hurt this guy?\u201d and of course... <em>\u201cwhat is my target?\u201d.<\/em>\n\nDecision points and well thought out triggers mean you\u2019re always locked and loaded and ready to rock n roll.\n\nIf you're looking for more in-depth \"rock n roll\" techniques, check this out.\n<p align=\"center\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.fightfast.com\/ar\/SBK-k.php?utm_campaign=Man-Skills_BRAWL&amp;utm_medium=post&amp;utm_source=blog&amp;utm_content=0D4E9E9F&amp;utm_term=existing-list\">&gt;&gt; Simple (and brutal) ways to defend yourself HERE. &lt;&lt;<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n\t<!-- END-->\n<p style=\"text-indent: 0px;\">Stay Manly,<\/p>\n\t<img src=\"https:\/\/fightfastvideos.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/Jimbo-Sig.jpg\" height=\"49px\">\nJimbo, Editor\nMan Skills\n\n<strong>P.S.<\/strong> Oh... and another thing. 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